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This is a great essay. Because you have integrity, and courage fueled by honesty, you will always be placed in a “box” by other people (as you know). All we can do is ignore the boxes. Ultimately, other people’s perceptions are meaningless (again, as you know). In any event, if you’re not offending half the people you talk to, you’re not being honest. Thanks again for a great essay, Frederick

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Look, I can't speak to your experience but I can speak to mine. After Hillary Clinton lost, women like me were blamed for not backing "one of our own." Never mind that I, a person who had voted Democrat for nearly twenty years and would gladly have voted for Bernie Sanders, found Hillary Clinton so repulsive a human being that I'd gladly give a shot to the "misogynist, racist" reality TV star. The whole plan to elect Hillary had been the same plan as the one to elect Barack Obama, and I fell for the one with Obama. Even though I would not have given it that name, somewhere in the back of my mind, I figured that everything that was wrong with our society was due to "cis heteronormative white male" ideology. And if someone was outside that "box," that person would definitely improve the situation simply because they would have views outside that description and act differently. Yeah, stupid, I know.

But when it came to Hillary Clinton, I wasn't going to fall for it a second time. What's wrong with our society is what's wrong with our society, and if you're going to counter those ills, you can't elect people who have profited from them, regardless of phenotype. Of course, spending the last six years defending my decision to vote for Trump, regardless of my reasons and earlier actions, has opened my eyes to many things, one of them being . . .

You can't reason with these people. I don't know if it is an honest albeit extremely unhealthy worldview or the only way they know to "win," but they want everyone to be in a box. And they hate people who refuse to go in a box or suggest to other people that we don't have to live in boxes. In fact, we shouldn't want to. The world is healthier with variety of perspective and thought, but it's not as easy to win elections or control people when you can't force them to live according to "flow charts" and "specs," so here we are.

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Dec 28, 2022Liked by Adam B. Coleman

As a mixed race individual with even more mix with my children, it is awe inspiring the mental gymnastics these idiots will go to build boxes. My dad used to say, “Boxes are for lazy minds that are not able to think for them selves.” And then he would toss in a swear word or two.

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Dec 28, 2022Liked by Adam B. Coleman

Great read! I too hate being lumped in with black conservatives because my identity is in Christ. I happen to agree with much of what is said by black conservatives, but I also disagree. It's unfortunate that we have no cognitive ability to view people as individuals. I am not any outward attribute that God has bestowed upon me. I am my intellect, my experiences and the redeemed child of God. Transcending race, can't happen soon enough.

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Dec 28, 2022·edited Dec 28, 2022Liked by Adam B. Coleman

We are all more than the sum of our parts but the whole is still made up of parts. You are a black American man. But like many who have come before you, I would argue that you have transcended the box.

The truest form of liberty is to cast off our own constraints as we approach the world with an open heart and mind. As you are doing now, I would expect you to challenge any preconception of what it means to be a black man in America. No one has the right to define that for you.

American history is a rich tapestry of black men and women who have bent the arc of history to their will. These were not people who could be confined to a box. They defied conformity in every way.

That includes everyone from Frederick Douglass to Martin Luther King Jr. But it also includes Thomas Sowell and my favorite justice on the Supreme Court, Clarence Thomas. Every one of them stand aloft as giants in an age of weak men. What a legacy!

We, as a nation, are a better people because of them. As a black American man, that is a part of your heritage. No one can take that away from you. But it is also a part of all of us now.

As an American, that fills me with pride, hope and optimism. May we always aspire to greater heights and fewer boxes. It is the least that we can do with such a rich inheritance.

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Dec 28, 2022Liked by Adam B. Coleman

What you describe is the death of the individual. In my opinion, it is the premeditated murder of the individual. For what purpose? I have ideas, but one thing is for sure; nothing good will follow. Just keep being you and find and surround yourself with people that accept you for who you are, and not who they expect you to be based on an immutable characteristics.

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💯. No to identitarian conformity! Sorry this box feels like a coffin of conformity. That you have little to no individuality but mist perform. Im a white male and must play the vile villain in every classroom discussion and elide or erase any truth or reality or experience that diverges from my scripted role. There is no true independence apart from the role you are to play in their race-based, strategic essentialism is there? Thank you for sharing your counternarrative that disrupts certainty in the mistaken universal group thought they think you have, and that they demand within skin color categories, and their anticipatory rhetoric that creates that assumption.

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Dec 28, 2022Liked by Adam B. Coleman

I love how you write and how you think. Keep on going!

May God bless you and your loved ones.

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Wonderful, Adam. Your writing gets richer and richer with each article. The coffin as metaphor for the death of good faith is brilliant. Keep up the good work.

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Dec 28, 2022Liked by Adam B. Coleman

Stand tall and SHINE on. You are clearly a unifier. You show your authenticity through your words and actions. Thank you.

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Asking to be judged by the content of your character, what a concept

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Dec 28, 2022Liked by Adam B. Coleman

Keep speaking up Adam. You have a unique voice and you help everyone regardless of race understand what is wrong with the way we view the world. We are each unique and precious individuals and we have inherent dignity and deserve respect. Thank you for using your platform to speak truth and common sense and I am praying for you right now because you are the one being attacked. God bless your work/mission.

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Dec 28, 2022Liked by Adam B. Coleman

Get a hatchet and gain some endorphins chopping apart the box. You don’t have to accept anyone’s box. You are you.

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Dec 28, 2022Liked by Adam B. Coleman

You are no more in lockstep with other conservatives of any color than I am with other feminists. What I seem to share with other feminists is a belief in our Constitutional right to free speech, to think and express what I believe, and to self-determination. Some of us are conservative and some of us are liberal, but the misogynists lump us together and literally spit out the word "feminists" as if we're a hive mind intent on evil. If there's one good thing that will come out of the Progressive attacks on "the patriarchy," it will be that we're all now grouped according to skin color and sex and we're all averse at being grouped by skin color and sex. I always thought it took some Olympic 10.0 mental gymnastics to say, in response to a particular woman or minority doing something stupid, "She makes women look bad" or "He makes blacks look bad." I've never looked at a white male doing something stupid and then transferred that accusation to an entire group that shares skin color and sex, nor do the ones who make the previous accusations apply the same logic when a white male screws something up. I've been accused of hating white people, hating black people, hating women, and hating men whenever I didn't go along with the current herd groupthink and hysteria. I don't put any "group" on a pedestal, whether it be women, men, blacks, whites, etc. You are leading in the world of those thinking for themselves and that's a danger to extremists at both ends of the wingnut spectrum. Keep up the great work!

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Dec 28, 2022Liked by Adam B. Coleman

The people who can only think in terms of stereotypes are like mosquitos - both numerous, but also they can't impede or distract you from your goal, unless you let them.

I respect you not for being Conservative, but for having the courage to disagree with the flow - to think for yourself, come to your own conclusions, and then to speak them.

I respect anyone who does that. Muslims who point out the true history of Islam, Russians who report on crimes against humanity in Russia, Hong Kongers who go to prison for printing the truth, Catholics who report on sex crimes in the Catholic Church.

You're a far better man than most - please keep it up.

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Dec 28, 2022Liked by Adam B. Coleman

Just keep doing what you think is right and ignore them. I imagine this is hard but it’s the way to go. To summarize Fuck em.

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